Discover Your Inner Beagle
August 31st, 2010Ignoring Dr Phil for the moment, there are a number of great people who have built a sound reputation on their capacity to build human connectedness. The list is endless but they include Carl Rogers, L. J. Moreno and Fritz Perls. It is all well and good being a theoretical genius but for my personal relationship wisdom I turn to a being that has reached a key milestone in emotional self-actualisation, someone who has reached a higher plain. I turn to the guru himself who is known only as Oskar. In eight years Oskar has simply mastered the capacity to unconditionally receive love. For Oskar is a beagle. Oskar will gleefully jump up on the bed in the morning and with an uncanny shift of the eyebrows indicate that it is time for him to receive some beagle lovin’. I start with slow cheek scratching and his face contorts with unabashed pleasure. He leans into my hands to soak up each caress. But when I slowly massage his temples it is like he is being stroked by an angel and his eyes roll back and glaze over as if he is in direct contact with divinity. In this moment Oskar does not doubt for a second that he is fully adored and loved. He is fully accepting of all the love I give him. He knows that he is so worthy of that love that he takes it in fully. In that moment he experiences utter bliss.
When we doubt that we are worthy of our partners love we fail to experience that transitory moment of bliss. I could spend years in therapy trying to purge myself of self doubt but when I want to embrace that moment of bliss I simply imagine that I am Oskar. I take in the gentle kisses and the gentleness of my partners hands and soak up her love. I experience a moment of bliss. It was only a moment, for when I licked my partners face in appreciation the mood was lost.
Embrace you inner beagle and bliss will follow.
Mark Sykes BPsych(Hons), MBus, GradDip(Qual), BSc.
http://www.marksykes.com.au
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